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Children learn by example, good or bad

"Some day after we have mastered the winds, the waves, the tides, and gravity we shall harness the energies of love.

Then for the second time in the history of the world, humankind will have discovered fire." - Teilhard de Chardin.

Like you I was delighted and relieved by the events surrounding the freedom of the Iraq hostages - two from Canada and the Brit after their harrowing ordeal.

Once again however, it made me reflect on the sadness of us humans that so often we find the only way to try and resolve our differences is through trying to harm and kill each other. It caused me to remember who these hostages were, why they were there and what they were trying to accomplish in this war torn country. Their message, that war is not the answer, - it never has been and history only too sadly attests to that.

"It is my conviction that nothing enduring can be built on violence." - Mahatma Gandhi.

It, as it always does, causes me to reflect on the unbalanced world we have created. We have allowed ourselves to be controlled by little boys who for the most part have not grown up and are still in the school yard picking fights, only the "school yard" has grown in size. It is the result of a Patriarchal society in which the gentleness and nurturing element of the female is terribly absent.

"That there are men in all countries who get their living by war, and by keeping up the quarrels of nations, is as shocking as it is true; but when those who are concerned in the government of a country, make it their study to sow discord and cultivate prejudices between nations, it becomes the more unpardonable" Thomas Paine, "The Rights Of Man," circa 1792.

I am well aware I have expressed this observation in these articles before. I do so because I feel it, I see it and if we are to create a more loving world for ourselves and for those that follow we must recognize it. If we don't civilization as we know it will/is unraveling.

No sex was created to dominate. I don't care what some religions think. That's the "man" speaking - once again! Are we men so insecure that we have to dominate both in our personal family lives as well as out in the world? For heavens sake look at the mess we have created! This is fear speaking not love. Needing power and control whether within the individual family unit or by dictators has its roots in fear, usually caused by a feeling of insecurity and a lack of love.

As an example, Saddam Hussain was brought up by an uncle who used to beat him with an iron rod and made him sleep in a barn! When we understand those early years of a child we can begin to see and understand its behaviour in later years. Jail is not always the best answer albeit perhaps the easiest. Out of sight - out of mind. Understanding the causes and working on the healing, is a far better way of dealing with these damaged souls.

The balancing of the world will only truly start when we men realize that it has to start within us individually - to find that balance between the male and female energies within us which we all possess even if we don't know it - yet. To recognize, feel and express compassion towards all life is the result of finding that balance within ourselves. It will truly change your life. It will let you know what true laughter and joy is.

Now this brings up another important issue. Children. This week I received an e-mail from a young girl, Kelsey, who I have not seen since she was 6. She is now 16. We met in the Salamenca Saturday market in Hobart , Tasmania in '98 where I was living at the time. Her parents had a stall there and my girl friend and I used to set up opposite them selling her wares - clay flutes. We became almost instant friends this young six year old and I and have remained in touch ever since.

In a recent exchange between us I said in part -

:"Don't ever doubt that knowing or ever doubt yourself whatever others try to tell you.

There are things that we "know" that are beyond the mind's ability to understand. One of these is that to truly understand the secrets of the Universe we must become "mind-less" and trust more in our intuition - that inner knowing that cannot be proven within the mind's limited abilities.

Remember always, the mind is a tool not our master! This idea will challenge some of the things you are taught in school. It means - even if millions of people believe something to be true it does not make it true. Trust in that knowingness and it will ultimately lead you down the road to freedom and away from the limited thinking of most of those around you. Don't ever give your power away to limitedness. Know the rainbow and spread your arms and float upwards into its radiance and feel the arms of love and peace around you. This is home."

When we express fear in our day to day lives we give it power and it slowly devours us as a result. When there is little or no joy felt and expressed we die a little more each day. A child raised in a home in which this fear element exists and is expressed to the child or is witnessed by the child the rot sets in.

I observe young children and in their earlier years there is a natural joy and giggling which demonstrates their natural state. There is a trust present, but sadly as the child grows and is witness to fear based emotions and anger around it, within the home, or in the school and the outer world generally, the conditioning [the "Box"] starts, and sadly the spontaneous joy and laughter and trust starts to evaporate - .and so "the sins of the father are visited even unto the third and fourth generation." - For what the child learns is what it will pass on - limitedness.

How can we begin to bring about change? We deserve better. Indeed, we should demand it! "The Torch be yours to hold on high" -. And so ---------

------------With knowledge comes power and through this self empowering we, by example, pass the torch to others who then can empower themselves and be a witness for others, and so the ball rolls. Let it roll, roll, roll!

"Our nation will become truly great only when we learn to love our children more than we yearn to control the Earth. The world we risk with war is that of our children." Rafael J. Gonzalez.

:"The first step is to penetrate the clouds of deceit and distortion and learn the truth about the world, then to organize and act to change it. That's never been impossible and never been easy." Noam Chomsky.

Over the last few months these utterings by me have been presented on a regular basis every two weeks. However, in future I will submit articles on a more irregular basis under the "Beyond the Box" heading when I feel moved to comment on some particular issue or observation. This is not "Good Bye" just "See Ya"! - Michael.

Michael Brine


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